In the philosophy of psychology, we are hearing a lot about our shadow selves. This is the part of ourselves we aren’t happy with and try to hide from the world (others). The idea, in healing the whole self, is to embrace these parts of ourselves we don’t like and learn to love and accept them. We feel comfortable showing our “polished parts” to the world but would feel better if we can “loosen up” and be less critical of ourselves. No more hiding the things we feel ashamed of. Let’s bring them into the light and learn to love ourselves completely.
There is an Indian proverb or axiom that says that everyone is a house with four rooms: a physical, a mental, an emotional and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person.
We can’t grow completely if we leave parts of ourselves behind.
When we moved into a small house that was going to take a lot of remodeling, one of the earlier challenges we faced was how we were going to fit our old, upright piano through the maze of cinder-block porch walls and varied levels of the cement walkways between these walls and the house.
If that was successful, getting it through the back door was the next obstacle that my husband felt certain would never work. There was just too small an opening between the block wall and then different levels in the concrete walkway to contend with.
The breezeway appeared a nice feature when we were considering purchasing this old “fixer-upper” but, even then, my husband expressed concern about moving large items into the home through all these tight spaces.
Now he was to the point of wondering who we could give the piano to.
Although it is very old and needs to be refinished (another project), it has the most beautiful tone, rich and deep, and I loved its antiquity. I wanted that piano and knew exactly where it had to go.
We built thick, barn-wood shelves in the bedroom, leaving a place in the corner, near the back door, for our upright piano to fit about a foot under the bottom shelf, it was a perfect spot!
After getting the room ready for the piano, my husband’s doubts grew in mammoth size as to getting it through the regular sized door plus maneuvering it around the narrow porch that runs the length of the back of the house with openings here and there in the cinder block wall. This was really going to be a challenge and he seemed to be giving up on it rapidly. As for me, I have an inborn attitude of “where there’s a will, there’s a way”. Without questioning, I just knew it would work, even if it took thinking it would work and then doing the impossible, believing it was possible.
I have a wonderful saying I apply to this kind of situation:
“Those who think it can’t be done need to get out of the way of those who are doing it.”
This is a writing assignment I had to do in the Blogging 101 Course I was taking. We were to choose between a number of options on various blogs that were pro-active activities. I chose to do a fun assignment in response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Three Perfect Shots.”
I used to have a very busy custom paint business. I did a lot of various paint techniques on walls so I called it “Wall Art”. I did a lot of glazing (a subtle, shiny finish with a translucent stain; usually done to give a wall an antique look). I also did what was called faux painting, using different colors blended to give a wall more depth and/or make it an “accent wall”. I loved doing murals and did a few of these as well. Towards the end of my time in this business I got into transforming plain, vinyl garage doors into looking like a metallic (often copper) door instead. A wood-look was also a popular choice.
I am going to describe what my three shots (photographs) would look like in the steps I took to complete this job. (Of course if I really did a step-by-step process in photos there would be many more than just three.